it’s possible this blog entry was in some way spurred by a very odd dream I had last night.. don’t get me wrong, it was an amazing (albeit short) dream. I think it had something to do with the fact that I had just watched a Friends episode before I went to bed — TOW Rachel’s Book. In that episode, Chandler and Monica begin preparing their wedding and Monica brings out her wedding book etc..
Anyway, my dream was soooo sweet but a bit out of character for me. I dreamt I was at my wedding. No shit. My groom was the male protagonist from Wild Child, but Asian. Honestly, dreams are weird. If they aren’t weird, they aren’t dreams.
yup, this guy on the right
and since dreams are effed up, he was Asian.
just a pic for gratuity =P
So yea that guy (Alex Pettyfer.. I had to wiki it) was my husband-to-be and man I was sooo happy in my dream! It was really weird coz
1) He was Asian in some way that wasn’t really visible (though I think in my dream his hair was really dark and so were his eyes or something) [and no shit, somehow even my subconscious wants me to marry an Asian guy, not a white guy. so much so that a white guy was turned Asian.. ]
2) He’s not even my type! I haven’t even thought about this dude since I last watched Wild Child! He’s not one of those guys I obsess over (like Li Yuan and Xu Yi Yuan)
Anyway, back to the dream. We were walking around in the ballroom before the guests arrived, I was in a pretty white dress twirling around (seriously, this shit doesn’t sound like me) and somehow I was surprised by the wedding. It was some kinda surprise party wedding.. Then the guests turned up, congratulating us etc.. At one point one of my aunties started hounding me for $600 that she had passed to me like, an hour before the wedding. For some reason. -__-”
Anyhoo, that isn’t the whole point of the entry. I wanted to blog about this because I was thinking about a friend of mine and wondering if he/she would end up with his/her (don’t want to reveal the identity of my friend LOL) current partner and wondering if they DID get married, whether I’d get invited.
Have you ever wondered whether you’d get invited to a friend’s wedding? It’s interesting because on the one hand, you want to get invited because it means your friend remembered you or felt you were important enough. On the other, you don’t want to have to go and get a gift, find a date etc.
You don’t face this situation with REALLY good friends. Those you know for SURE you’d get invited to. I’m talking about good friends who you don’t talk to ALL the time or friend with whom you don’t know where you stand.. I started thinking more about the issue of wedding invitations because it’s the one big party everyone has in their lives. Whoever they invite to this party will be part of that person’s history. Though you could say the same for 21st birthday parties, I think weddings are WAY bigger.
Some ex-classmates of mine have already gone and gotten married. I was not invited to any of those. I don’t feel sore about it, just a bit left out I guess. I didn’t expect to be invited because I wasn’t really close to them, but when other common friends are invited and you aren’t, you start wondering what you did wrong. Lol. When the reality is probably that the couple probably had to cut down on guests they were inviting for cost-saving purposes.
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Since we’re on the topic of weddings and having to attend them, I started thinking about the tradition of the bouquet toss. Sometimes it seems humiliating to me to have to stand and be labeled “single” (more on this next time).. It seems like many women out there place huge importance on catching the bouquet at weddings since well, many shows have women fighting tooth and nail over the bouquets…
bouquet toss 1..
bouquet toss 2.. look at the crowd behind the bride! and the anticipation!
I don’t know about you guys, but I’m one of those girls who completely shuns the bouquet. I mean, sure it’d be fun to catch the bouquet but MAN the response from everyone around you once you catch it. I hate when my relatives ask about my love life. In fact, in general, I don’t talk about my love life much except to my close friends (with whom I talk about my love life endlessly)..
Thing is, I don’t think that’s the real reason why I’d shun the bouquet. I think there’s some other reason I don’t want to and I don’t know why. It’s definitely not that I want to remain single all my life or something (though I do have a problem with commitment). Oh well, not a problem I’ll have to think about soon anyway. I’ll wait till the wedding invitations come in to start shuddering.
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What a dream dear!! Whoa! Wish I had those kinds of dreams… but I did dream of 2 good looking guys *and weird, 1 was asian and the other not, he was blonde XD* and I think I was choosing between them but my dream ended… was very good friends with them in the dream… but I’ve been dreaming weird things like the American idol judges and swimming pools and such XD. hahaha
Yes I do wonder!! I didn’t have a debut on my 18th so I’m wishing that my wedding would be BIG! Not that huge though but I hope that it’s something spectacular! I wonder if my not so close friends invite me too..
I also SHUN the bouquet toss!! Really… haha same reason!
About the sponsorship, that would be very lovely!!
Thanks so muchh!! 
I’ll be giving out more information in my next few posts! 
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chervalier Reply:
September 16th, 2009 at 12:34 am
heh dreams are seriously outta this world lol. AI judges in swimming pools? That’s weird!! Lol.
I’ll be checking out how I can sponsor something then =) I can sponsor subdomain hosting too but I doubt that’s valuable in anyway, heh.
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Lol girl XD I love how you blog about random stuff *grins* I don’t think I need to answer your last qn cos I know you know the answer LOL. XD *giggles* Anyways, you’ll probably get married one day and I’ll find you twirling around in your wedding dress and being all freaky happy and teary bride XD *grins* Catch ya soon, babe
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chervalier Reply:
September 16th, 2009 at 12:35 am
I do indeed know the answer to my question haha.
I am totally unsure of the possibility of me getting married as of now.. Haha. No prospects and all. Haha. I don’t think I’ll be teary! Freaky maybe. Happy possibly. haha.
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Wow, I don’t mind marrying such a wonderful looking guy.
Opps, Chewy is going to kill me when he reads this. Anyway, some of your friends have gotten married? If I’m not wrong, you are younger than me right? None of my friends have gotten married yet so I haven’t been invited before either. 
I’ll definitely be inviting you. LOL! You’re be on the fellow SG bloggers table. Wahahaha!
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chervalier Reply:
September 16th, 2009 at 1:57 pm
hehe! i don’t mind either, he’s really cute and he was super nice in my dream! haha.
yea some of my friends have gotten married! I’m 22 this year.. Am I younger than you? Some of those friends who got married were like a year or 2 older though some are the same age.. >< haha
YAY for SG bloggers table at your wedding!! Wonder who I’ll see there. And it’ll be great to meet more sg bloggers too hehe =D
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Dayna Reply:
September 17th, 2009 at 11:27 am
Oh, I’m 21 this year. You looked so young in the photos. I wouldn’t believe you are a day over 20.
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chervalier Reply:
September 17th, 2009 at 10:36 pm
awww! that’s sweet! haha. thanks! some people always say I look older than I am =(
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Dreams, to me, are the incomprehensible composite of the wildest things that run through my mind every now and then. I’ve got really weird ones, downright to discovering the true identity of my friend that he’s a body modification enthusiast who took pains to remove every single piercing every single time before he meets my friends because he didn’t want us to know about it.
And in real life, that’s totally not him, hah.
I guess dreaming your dream groom as an Asian perhaps reflects your desire to marry one… or not?
I’m not sure. Some people say dreams are a reflection of what you think but other feels that it’s the exact opposite.
Sorry to hear about your being screened out for the wedding invitations. That must have sucked so much. I wouldn’t mind if I’m not invited but knowing that other mutual friends were invited while I’m not, I’ll definitely feel a little left out and upset
It doesn’t cost them a bomb to spare one more seat for you, does it?
p/s: Dropping by via Dayna’s post about the five blogs that she visits regularly.
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chervalier Reply:
September 17th, 2009 at 12:17 am
wow! I think dreams do have an inner meaning sometimes.. I believe that I dream of things that will NEVER happen.. I once dreamt that my exboyfriend tried to hold my hand.. and he NEVER did (in real life)!!!! Haha that relationship ended in under 2 months lol.
so I think maybe dreaming that my groom is Asian means I don’t want to marry an Asian? Weird though, I’m open to either Asian or White.. Not so comfortable about others.. HMMM maybe that’s what my Asian-White groom was supposed to mean. Haha.
Doesn’t really mean a lot to me coz those friends weren’t VERY close haha so it’s alright. They were just classmates.. =)
Thanks for visiting!! Hope to see ya around here soon =)
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ur dreaming dear..
that man your talking was mine..!!!!♥
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