but when I’m facing this page, it’s like the words all come to a screeching halt, refusing to flow from my brain, through my fingertips to the keyboard+screen. It’s incredibly frustrating ><
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Anyhoo, i couldn’t stand leaving my blog so empty and sad looking, what with that angsty-sounding entry being the most recent entry.. So I thought, hey, let’s blog about something fun!
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I actually had 3 topic areas to blog about but right now, I can only remember one. However, to make things a bit livelier, here’s my latest vlog update which you’d have seen if you were subscribed to my channel on Youtube, or if you were my friend on FB.
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Ah yes. A very interesting video as usual!!!!!!
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Anyhoo. Here’s the thing I wanted to blog about. It’s one of my usual “thought/opinion”-type entries…
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Opinion.
I recently did a meme on FB that required me to answer about my “Current Relationship Status”. My answer was “-”. I don’t know if you guys have ever wondered why I choose not to display my relationship status on FB, but while it started out as simple ignorance for me, it slowly became an active decision/choice not to display that status.
Uh in case you didn’t know, it’s “single”.
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Why?
I think a lot of the reason behind my decision has to do with the stigma associated with being single. That said, though, there’s a myriad of reasons behind my decision. While I don’t like being labelled “single”, I don’t see the need to display my relationship status let’s say IF there was a change. Also, it’s such a hassle having to change relationship statuses. Unless you are pretty sure about it, there’s not really adequate reason to change it. I’m pretty sure FB and other social networks came up with this thing just so we could mindfuck ourselves on a whole other level.
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I mean, there are so many stories about people quarreling over FB statuses, girls doing silly things like marrying each other on fb (which is ok if it’s all in the name of fun for awhile but gets old really quick), people changing their relationship statuses every time something happens, people not being on the same page when it comes to relationship statuses etc.
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Statuses like “Married” and “In a relationship” and even “Single” are totally fine by me. It’s statuses like “It’s Complicated” or “In an open relationship” that make me think, “What’s the point?” If it’s complicated, why complicate things further by putting, “It’s Complicated” up? If you truly are “in an open relationship” with someone, why declare that you’re in a relationship with that person? I mean, if it’s an open relationship, there’s no need to stake claim, right?
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I’m not going to lie and say i’ve never contemplated using those statuses… But every time I think about doing it, the rational, sensible side of me steps in and goes, “WTF who are you kidding? Why waste your time?”
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The only time I will display a relationship status on my FB profile is if/when I am in a relationship / married (*GASP**) and my partner asks me to (kinda like peeing all over my FB to stake claim, but i don’t really mind that i guess). Otherwise, I don’t see a point to displaying my status. The people who ought to know know and the people who don’t can jolly well assume whatever they want. After all, they can choose from “Single”, “In a RS”, “In an open RS”, “It’s Complicated”, “Engaged”, “Married” or “It’s gay rainbow donkey balls”
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As an ending note to this section, just a disclaimer on some of the other stuff I do show (because I do tend to overshare sometimes). I decided that there was a NEED for me to display that I’m interested in MEN. Not WOMEN. Because my profile and whatever shenanigans I get up to can lead people to think otherwise. Yup.
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Actual personal life bloggage
WELL. I met up with Da Jie and Er Jie (Jen and Shirin respectively) from PRIMARY SCH last night!!! We’ve not seen each other in almost 10 years!!! Massive catching up session. While I was initially apprehensive about meeting up and kinda worried about whether we’d have stuff to talk about, turns out my fears were unfounded. We had a great time chatting and catching up on our lives… 10 years worth of catching up! We’re sooo grown up now though. haha.
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There’s other stuff I want to blog about but I’m going to just save it for next time. It’s pretty deep stuff actually.
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Random note: My birthday, apart from being Mischief Night (night before Halloween when everyone dresses up trick-or-treatin’), is also, apparently, Victoria Derby Day. Horses, anyone?
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hahahaha…farnnie…
then again fb and all social webbies like blogs thrive because of all the self mindfuck we put ourselves through!
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chervalier Reply:
July 7th, 2010 at 12:07 pm
@priyanka,
lol tru dat
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LOL. there’s probably a “shit” in every sentence u said.
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chervalier Reply:
July 7th, 2010 at 12:07 pm
@wanyi,
WHERE GOT! hahahhahahaha shit =X
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I don’t see the point in the relationship statuses either, but I’m always quite amused when I survey the relationship statuses of people I know, especially when things are complicated
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chervalier Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 5:17 pm
@Emsz,
exactly!! i think my favorite is “It’s Complicated” too. Though “In an Open Relationship” makes me wonder. hahahha
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Oh God, I laughed so hard at your FB territory marking analogy!! I also really want the option to choose “Gay Rainbow Donkey Balls”. It might confuse people but it’s nowhere near as confusing as getting on again, off again FB updates.
Congrats on the fabulous catch up with old friends!
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chervalier Reply:
July 7th, 2010 at 12:10 pm
@Anna,
LOL Anna! But it’s true, don’t you think? I know of a friend whose boyfriend responds to every.single.thing she does!!! I mean, if they were valuable comments, fine… But they seem to be just comments that are kinda “staking claim”, like if her update was something about liking something, he’ll go “like me?” etc and yea it’s not anything that adds value… haha
INOERITE gay rainbow donkey balls would be an awesome status to have!
thank you =) BTW i saw your comment on my video on youtube, just haven’t had time to sign in and reply lol.
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Awww man! I thought there actually was an option for “It’s gay rainbow donkey balls” and went to check!
I recently added that I was single on Facebook (after I was on the Edit Relationships page anyway to add my family) and within the space of about five hours had about 10 people say variations on “Dude, wtf?! When were you in a relationship?!” etc. Including my sister and my best friend. Because, you know, they’d be the last people to know if I was in a relationship. O.o
I also can’t stand it when people add their friends as their husbands/wives/children/whatever. It seems like the kind of thing you’d do when you’re 13, not in your late teens/early twenties.
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chervalier Reply:
July 7th, 2010 at 12:15 pm
@Amy Louise,
LOL the word gullible is written on the ceiling, Amy! hahahha. it’d be an awesome status to have though.
LOL that’s really funny about suddenly choosing to display your status. It’s exactly what I’m getting at. I wouldn’t display mine either because I kinda think that’s exactly what will happen.
hahaha yea i have friends who do that “add friends as family members” thing… Doesn’t piss me off that much, and I can’t say i haven’t been tempted to do it, but yea it does seem a bit ridic. haha
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Hahaha I highly enjoyed your Chinese lesson (I’m Chinese, just fyi). And I like how distracted you get
I’ve never actually seen anyone use “it’s complicated” or “in an open relationship” unless it’s as a joke with a friend. And I’ve listed “Interested in: Men” too (except my facebook’s in Spanish so it actuallys “Me interesan: Hombres”) — I think so many people fill out “Interested in” that it’s become a common assumption that most people who don’t aren’t straight (my best gay guy friend leaves it out but fills out everything else, for example).
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chervalier Reply:
July 7th, 2010 at 12:18 pm
@Meg,
haha yea i do know you’re Chinese =) I read your blog y’know. Hahaha. Yea i was terribly distracted by someone terribly distracting. hahahha.
I’ve seen tons of those, it seems really silly to me.
How is it that your FB’s in Spanish? Do you speak Spanish? Could you teach me? hahaha. Maybe like how I attempted to teach Chinese? heh.
As for “Interested In:” it isn’t as common for me to assume that people who don’t fill it out are gay. Plenty of my gay friends state it openly, while some people I know who aren’t bi or gay at all indicate interest in both, which is hilarious, to me. haha
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Meg Reply:
July 8th, 2010 at 2:17 am
@chervalier,
…Oh. I didn’t know I ever mentioned Chinese on my blog
And yesh, I’ve taken Spanish in school for eons now, and I’m a Spanish minor, and sí, por supuesto, puedo enseñarte
And I guess it’s different in different social circles!
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I’ve seen friends putting up the “it’s complicated” sign when they are on the verge of breaking/patching up. I thought it’s pretty obvious whether you are in a relationship with someone or you’re not. There’s no such things as partially involved but then again, I don’t really read too much into the relationship status.
When are we meeting up!?!?
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chervalier Reply:
July 14th, 2010 at 10:17 pm
@Dayna,
i agree that if you’re in a r/s with someone it’s pretty obvious (on fb at least)… like there will be pictures, comments from friends etc.. and also, whoever needs to know ur r/s status prolly already knows mah so there’s no need to do it
haha omg i’ve been so so busy but yea 2nd half of august is good for me =) so need to meet u all soon =)
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While I’m completely fine with any sort of relationship status, the “In an open relationship” option is kind of stupid. Innocent bystanders like us should be spared from this kind of TMI stuff, don’t you think? Plus, if a person is in such a relationship, his/her friend would probably have heard of that already.
I am, however, deeply disturbed by those fake parents and offspring relationship. Like my cousin is suddenly a son of his female classmate. Oooooh my god. Mindfuck (sorry for the language).
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chervalier Reply:
July 14th, 2010 at 10:22 pm
@Terry,
haha terry, yes totally agree with everything you’ve said. i get confused when i see people with siblings with different last names all over too, mindfuckeration indeed. no worries about language, my blog is fuck-friendly. uhm in the swear-word way.
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love your vlogs always!
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