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hola!! =)) Sorry for the non-bloggage for like, EVER. I’ve been busy and lazy as usual.. Feb was a totally crazy time for me, every single weekend was booked.. And it’s starting to seem like March is just going to be more of the same..

Just a quick reminder to self about March:

1) Meet Ann! (first weekend for coffee meetup with S?)

2) 12th dinner with tnt

3) 13th- MJ with girls and check if any prior apptmts

4) first weekend with yarn?

5) 27th with sgbloggers

6) 26th play

Yea that’s all so far. Mannn, working really destroys my ability to hang out during weekdays.. I did meet up with val yesterday though and have discovered that Raffles City is a pretty awesome place to shop.. heh. I’ve also discovered that shopping alone is detrimental to the health of my bank account.. ><

Aaaanyhoo, this blog entry is supposed to be a nice meaty satisfying one for those of you who prefer my blog entries..

Most of you should know I’m Catholic and that my belief system is pretty much shaped by Catholic values and principles. Well, most of it, at least. I realized lately that I have an underlying belief that governs my whole outlook on life and yea, i’m about to share it! lol.

Basically, I feel that our life and everything we worry/care about can be classified into a few basic categories. They are

• Family
• Health
• Love
• Work
• Friends
• Money
• Spirit /Faith (in other words, religion)

Now, the basic principle to life relating to the above is this:

Balance.

Yup! Simple huh? Basically, everything will balance out. Religiously, I’d say I believe this because I believe God is fair. You could also see it in a very Zen-manner and believe in the ultimate balance of the universe.

What this balance is referring to is that everything is fairly allocated. For example, if you are doing poorly at work and thus also have money problems, then you probably have love, friends and family who care for you and are probably generally healthy and spiritually sound too. Alternatively if you excel at work, have lots of money, and have great friends and family, then you might just be a bit more prone to illness, or maybe not have a good foundation faith-wise.

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So here’s some real-life updating from me that you rarely get on this blog. Everytime I pray (every night and every week at church), I kinda do a mental stock check of all these areas in life and pray that everything’s alright with all of them. However, I know there has to be balance and that something has to lose out somewhere.. Now for me, the most important things are Family and Health. These 2 I will never compromise on. The rest are very important too but I can compromise on those..

I’m very fortunate to be blessed with good things on most of my “areas”.. I have a wonderful family and mostly we have peace (though I guess you can say my bad relationship with my brother is a dip in the see-saw here).. I have AWESOME friends, money isn’t too big a problem, I’m a normal, mostly healthy person and I’m spiritually sound.. So yea, it seems everything’s up up up.. So a while ago, I was sorta taking stock and really praying very hard about the last 2 categories (work had not happened yet and up till then it had been “school”.. love was… not too good. a dip for sure)..

Let’s just say I kinda prayed for 2 things that were sort of happening around the same period. And what ended up happening was this: God gave me a GREAT job and decided to even things out by giving me a $%^&#craphole of a love life..

I mean when I look back on it.. I know how relieved I was when I got the job I wanted. At that precise moment I knew that I would have been a lot more devastated if I had gotten the uh relationship-related thing and lost out on the job than if i had gotten the job and lost out on the relationship-related thing. I think I even told some people this exact same sentiment right at that moment.

And honestly, my job has got to be God-given because it’s just awesome. I’m surrounded by amazing people, learning lots of things, can get to and from work very conveniently… From the bottom of my heart I know it was in His plan (ok if i’m coming across too religious well, I’m sort of sorry but seriously, you don’t understand the whole story) and that the long wait was worth it because I feel truly blessed with a great job. When I hear about some other horror stories of first jobs, I can’t help but give thanks.

About the shitfest that is my love life… I don’t know if I can do without one (because it seems like to even out the balance of all the categories I need to have a shitty or no love life) but I know now that if/when it happens, it’s going to be amazing. Like my job. And I really believe it because I know my next relationship will probably be IT, coz I’m *cough* such an accomodating and wonderful person. lol. No seriously though. I don’t foresee myself getting into any arguments or anything because i honestly think good communication can resolve most problems.

Anyways, we shall not talk about this anymore lol. What do you think? Agree with my Grand Theory?? Love the entry? haha. Love y’all. Will blog about the amazing mahjong night with my girls Michelle Siying and Edna soon! Till then, CIAOOO

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HOLA! =)

Long time no blog! I know some of you missed me, heh. Anyhoo, we’ll see what kinda reaction this entry gets because I’m not gonna waste time BLOGGING if Vlogging is way more popular (and I personally prefer vlogging to blogging lol).. Yea.. I actually have another video ready for uploadage but I thought I’d appease those who prefer Blogs before I post yet another vlog entry..

On a side note, some of you can actually Subscribe to me on Youtube if you have Youtube accounts.. I sometimes discreetly post videos up there that I don’t really publicize heh. You can also see videos I’ve favorited and feel free to enjoy my meticulously-put-together playlists!

Heh. Alright, back to the topic of this blog! So really long ago, I wanted to share what it’s like to be a WRUB DJ! A few of you know this, I was a student DJ back in the day (ahem) when I was at UB (University at Buffalo, State University of New York).. It was honestly one of the best things I’d ever done..

So the other day I was just going through my old recordings of my show - the GQ Show.. And I felt very nostalgic.. So I thought I’d share what the process is like for each show =)

BEFORE EACH SHOW

Since the GQ Show is a Gossip-oriented show, I read up on all the gossip that happened in the days before the show and pick out interesting things that I want to talk about.. My pet issue during that time was the Brangelina-JAnistin drama so I more or less always found a way to squeeze that topic in.. =)

I also have to prepare a playlist on my Ipod of all the songs I wanted to play.. I’d do it in sets of 3 -1:

1. First song would be the “background music” track for a segment of talking – otherwise known as a Mic Break.
2. Song to play
3. Song to play

After 2 songs, I’d have to play a “cart”, which is better known as commercials, from the computer in the booth.. Then I play a piece from “rotation” – a set of music we have to choose from to play each hour.. So I’d line up a song after that.. And then repeat =) It eventually ends up in the first song being background music, then 3 songs, then background music, then 3 songs etc…

So generally I’d have about 5 sections of 3-1 per 1.5hr show.. Yep. Once I’ve prepared the playlist, I write down all the songs on a notepad so that it’s easier for me to announce the songs during each mic break..

DURING THE SHOW

1) Plug in Ipod and headphones

2) Using computer, play show intro cart (opening song for the show)

3) Play Ipod (background music), make sure sound volume is just right (see soundboard below! =)) and speak!

4) After talking and introducing upcoming songs, play songs.

5) Prepare cart to play and rotation pieces. Pick rotation pieces from CD wall..

6) Play cart followed by rotation piece.

7) Play remaining song.

8 ) Go to mic break with background music playing (adjust volume, etc)

9) Talk Gossip. If necessary, hold/host contest and give away prizes. Promo upcoming events =)

10) Repeat! =))

AFTER THE SHOW

Update show log every show. =)

Yup, that’s more or less it. We also have fun events like WRUB Game Nights and WRUB Day and TOP40 day =) Those events are super fun and plus the people were awesome, which made everything even more fun. Gah I miss DJ-ing!! Heh.

Ohwells. I hope you guys have been enlightened and entertained by this entry hehe. Know me better now? =) Love y’all, tc and ciao!! =))

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like i’ve warned y’all.. this is gonna be a semi-emo post!

i’ve kinda wanted to post this for some time coz i realized something pretty funky. uh yea. but never really had the time to (between all the vlogging and panicking for work) so I kinda have an hour of free time right now and decided to use this time to blog!

on my way here (i’m at my aunt’s salon), I stupidly cried again coz my parents were quarreling (again) thanks to some stupid logistics issue that i don’t even want to talk about right now.. ugh. and so I was feeling kinda down when I got here but i cheered up immediately at the sight of the ubercute YANGSTER in his mom’s office playing on the computer =)

seriously all it takes is a big hug and an “I love you” from that boy and I feel tonnes better.

but anyhoo, that bit about crying was exactly what i wanted to blog about. I’ve been crazily emotional lately and I don’t know why! Seriously, I’ve been crying at the slightest trigger. I think something’s really wrong with my hormones.

I’ve cried more this December 2009 (and whatever days of January 2010 so far) than I’ve cried in the whole of 2009 put together. I would have said it’s the most I’ve cried in 3 years but I have to take into account the large amounts of crying I did in 2008 – what with leaving Singapore for the States and then leaving the States for Singapore.. LOL.

And this is the thing: I’m not such a weak person. At least, I don’t believe I am. I’m not the kind of person who cries at everything (movies and tv shows aside because ok I’ll admit I cry super easily at those). And I’m seriously despising myself right now for crying so much. It’s like I’m on emotional tenterhooks and it’s annoying.

When the first (what i call) “stupid crying for no reason” incident occured, I put it down to hormonal imbalance because I was pre-menstrual. It was mid-December and I was flying off to Penang but well, some of my stuff (basically facial foam and vaseline) were confiscated, leading to my mom sort-of telling me off and lots of unnecessary humiliation. So for no reason the tears started flowing and then the sobs followed. (EMBARASSING. At one point I was shaking my head at myself wondering what on earth I was crying about. )

From then on it was as if the tap was not closed tightly enough and the pipes were leaking or something. I’d cry at almost anything. It’s very retarded, really.

Another time when I cried without being able to control it was on the way to the hospital and in the hospital when they were taking my blood. I cried all the way from the time they mentioned “blood test” till I was taking my x-ray (about a whole half hour to 45mins.. ><) WHY AM I SUCH A WEAKLING omg.

Of course, there were more incidents but those were a bit more reasonable (as in I understand why I was crying lol).. Yea..

I’ve since come to a conclusion about all this retarded crying. It’s because I’ve stopped doing something I used to do on a daily basis. I’ve stopped watching comedies on a daily basis. Lol. My life everyday used to consist of at least 2 hours of watching Friends / South Park / Family Guy / the Simpsons / Ellen / etc online.. For some reason I stopped doing that and I think it’s causing some kind of deficit in my body.

Since I don’t want to be a blubbering mess all the time, I’m gonna go back to devoting 2hrs a day to watching comedies and cartoons. And of course, I’ve found vlogging to be pretty awesome in engaging my attention so yea.

What other methods do you suggest? =)

PS: The yangster is singing Fireflies by Owl City non-stop right now. Off-key and the lyrics are totally wrong. But he warms my heart and he’s cuddly =) I love how stealing some family time (extended family with my cuzzies, I mean) always makes me feel better no matter what.

Till the next time, toodles~

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yea aren’t you guys just sooooooooo glad that i’m just blogging ALL THE FRIGGING TIME right now? haha ok so it’s not all the time but it’s often enough!

Anyhoo, I think it’s due in part to the fact that I have significantly more time on my hands now plus I’ve finished the article that I had to write awhile ago so i don’t feel so laden with guilt.

Well, this article is, once again, relationship-themed.. Haha. Man, I can’t wait to start work so that I have a lot more distractions and less time to think about relationships!! Gah. And yea that’s right, I intend to be totally committed to work and not even give a thought to serious relationships at all once I start work.. That’s why as long as I’m not in a relationship by the end of this year, that’s it for me for the next year (or 3, I’m thinking..)

Not like that has any likelihood of happening, haha. ANYWAY, back to the point of this entry! I was just reading this thing on facebook titled “102 things Guys need to know about Girls” and found that I seriously need to comment about the (in)accuracy of it.. Lest any gullible guy out there believes it to be the truth.. So where better to do it than my blog? =))

I’m just going to list the points and post my comments after it.. The list was taken from this facebook group..

102 Things Guys need to know about Girls

1. Do not cheat on a girl. We girls talk, we WILL know, and we WILL find out, and we WILL dump you!

This is kinda true.. Nothing much to add on here..

2. Be aware of all your girlfriends’ guy friends, brothers, fathers, or anything. They are protective. Every single male friend we have will kick your ass if you end up hurting her.

Uhh I think so.. Haha my dad is protective to a certain degree, though he kinda makes way for me to have “opportunities”… If you know what I mean.. lol. As for my brother, I think he couldn’t give a shit.

3. Never ever miss an opportunity to tell her that she’s beautiful. We girls love that.

Who doesn’t love flattery?

4. If she slapped you hard, you probably deserved it.

I dunno.. I don’t think I’ll ever slap anyone.. Haha

5. Do not be afraid of holding her. If she’s going out with you in the first place, it’s obvious that she likes you and wants to be in your arms.

True! =)

6. Every girl should eventually get three things from her boyfriend — a stuffed animal, one of his sweatshirts or hoodie’s, and a really pretty piece of jewelry.

I can’t say every single girl wants these.. I kinda only want the 2nd item haha. A stuffed animal would be cute but would just collect dust.. And if you end up buying something I don’t like then that’s just gonna make things awkward for me right? Same goes for jewellery.. Guys don’t have very hot taste.

We girls want your shirts coz it feels like you’re around. I personally feel like it’s kinda having your boyfriend mark his territory, kinda. And I know a lot of girls don’t like it, but I think it’s cool. I think maybe I haven’t had a boyfriend in TOO long. haha

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so this is another post I’ve wanted to write in awhile.. Lol.. What’s with me and all the relationship-themed posts lately!?!? No idea, though I think it might be because I’m utterly HOPELESS when it comes to figuring guys out. They say girls are the more complex gender… I think guys are pretty complex too!

actually, wait.. I think guys aren’t TOO complex.. We girls just tend to think too much.. hehe ^^ ANYHOW. The need for this post came about because well, I needed some answers quite awhile back (I think since like, a few years ago lol) regarding this issue and when I recently googled What Is A Date?, I didn’t get very satisfying/conclusive answers..

Many people on Yahoo Answers mentioned that it’s when two people go out to spend time together, with the promise of sex afterwards.. Yea that won’t quite fly in Singapore’s society.. At least, not for ALL dates and not openly.. Then when I was discussing with a friend about whether or not I was dating someone, he asked whether or not the person in question did a bunch of stuff which sounded like a checklist of things..

Apparently the things that happen during a date include some of these (according to that friend of mine, and this was in the States so there may be cultural differences..) :

• The guy pays for the food and whatever else you choose to do
• He picks you up and sends you home
• to be honest I can’t remember what else lol.. this happened awhile back.. some time last year.. don’t blame me!

Mmm.. See there are many points of contention regarding any definition of a date. Some people can go dutch on a date and STILL call it a date. Other times, it might not be practical for either party to send/see the other home so it doesn’t happen. Technically, a date is when 2 people meet up and spend time together. That’s it. But if that’s it, then well, most of us would be dating a lot of our friends.

A romantic date can’t just be defined by 2 people going out/making an arrangement to meet up (and maybe stay in)..  There’s a lot to define and many different variables to consider. Of course, you can get all pissy on me and say it needs no definition etc but well, confused and relationship(ly)-impaired people like MOI need help understanding all this crap.

I would love to list some examples of confusing date-type-things I’ve been on and have you all decide if they are but dates…. But it would mean letting a lot of people (er not a LOT but some.. haha) know that I’m confused by my outings with them haha. See, when it’s with a close friend, you know for sure it ain’t a romantic date. I go out with my really good guy friends all the time without having to wonder if they are dates because it doesn’t matter.  With someone that matters though, that’s when u start getting all confused and nitpicky. Haha.

Whatever it is, I’ve reached a definite conclusion. I will now term every single time I’m out with a person as an OUTING. I will only consider it a date (meaning romantic date) if and only if:

• The person asking makes it clear that it’s a date. Meaning, when he asks me out, it includes the following statement, “Would you like to go on a date with me?” or other variations of the same. It must include the word date
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• I ask the person if it’s a date and he agrees it is. AGREES. NO HEDGING. No qualifiers like, “maybe”, “probably” or “perhaps” type words. HELLO? It takes me a certain amount of courage to even ASK if it’s a date ok. I’m usually extremely reticent about such things. (My friends would know)
• OR
• During the outing, he makes obvious gestures such as buying me flowers(which really, I don’t like but it’s obvious..), holding my hand (for an extended period of time and away from roads and traffic lights), or uh, saying obvious things like I like you (?) lol.

Now, using the above criteria, I can now safely say “I HAVE NOT EVER BEEN ON A (ROMANTIC) DATE!” woots. haha. I HAVE, however, rejected going out on obvious romantic dates with people I obviously don’t like.. That’s another story for another time, though.

I think based on the above, I am likely not going to get asked out in a loong loooooong time… HAHA. If I do though, and if I agree to it, then I say, that must be something special indeed. haha =)

What say you, readers? Agree with my arguments/criteria? Anything to add? Dating horror stories? COMMENT AWAY =)

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now now, don’t get all pissy on me just because I haven’t blogged in what, one and a half months? Heh. I apologize, truly. I’ve been mentally swamped with all sorts of stuff, gotten food poisoning, been moody etc.. At least I’m back (kinda) and with a post I’ve wanted to put up quite awhile ago..

This post came about because I developed a crazy love for the BBC series Torchwood, which is a Doctor Who spinoff.. The main character is played by the very desirable John Barrowman, who is, sadly (for straight girls like me), gay. Haha. Ohwells.

Anyhoo, I realized that I have a very very varied taste when it comes to men. I have liked celebrities ranging from Orlando Bloom and Lee Ryan to Daniel Wu and Li Dong Xue (Li Yuan) to weirder choices like Matthew Perry, Colin Firth and John Cho. What I’ve decided to do is put together a composite of these people to create the (in my opinion) perfect man! =D

Let’s start with the physical:

We will use Li Yuan’s body and face! (I really really think he’s perfect. haha)

By the way, he’s 183cm tall which is like within range of my ideal height =D

Now, the face thing is a bit contentious because there are a HECK of a lot of guys out there with REAALLY gorgeous faces (Kevin Cheng, Raymond Lam, Chris Pine etc come to mind).. However, I think the face really goes with the body because well, it’d just look weird, I dunno. The size of the head wouldn’t fit etc.. Haha.

haha. Aaanyhoo… *regains control of self* We’ve settled almost all the physical aspects.. We have gone with Li Yuan’s bod, face and height. What we need now is…

JOHN BARROWMAN’S ASS

But before I introduce you to his behind, let me introduce you to the man himself, John Barrowman:

And nowwwww you can get the Asstroduction:

Now now, I agree that John Barrowman’s behind would be a bit disproportionate for Li Yuan’s amazing bod so I’ve offered that last picture of Gareth David-Lloyd’s behind. GDL plays Ianto Jones in Torchwood, the lover of Jack Harkness. I think his behind is a perfectly acceptable substitute =D

(Don’t you love how I’m objectifying men now? Tables turning? You betcha!)

Ok  now we get to the character bit. This is gonna get reeeaaally tricky but we’re going to TRY, dammit.

Don’t laugh at me or scorn/scoff/throw up here, but we’re gonna use the unrealistically undying love of a very well-known character..

Cheesy as hell but come on, who are we kidding? We’re trying to build the PERFECT man, which is never going to happen, so let’s use unrealistic stuff anyway!

So Edward Cullen’s devotion is one of the qualities we’d use. His love like, REALLY WON’T DIE. It just CAN’T. Of course, we’re gonna have to minus the bloodthirst *makes notes*.

Next, we’re going to want the Smarts of this guy:

I also wanted to put in the smarts of Qi Dang Jia of ShuJian (which you will remember was my previous major obsession) but since this is more current (to me), we will use this.

Did I mention that Wu Qing is also a talented musician? Hmmmm…. =P

We want the protectiveness of this guy:

I don’t like this guy for his occasional indecisiveness but he did eventually step up and become a really good boyfriend+husband so hurray for him!

Another quality that can make girls really happy (or at least, girls like me) is a great sense of humor. And for that, we turn to…

Yup. Chandler’s sarcastic wit is funny as hell, though I think it can get tiring after awhile.. Hmm.. Just a good sense of humor will do, boys =)

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There’s a lot more I could add but I’m kinda exhausted, lol. Now, bear in mind that there are a lot of things that realistically don’t make sense in the above concoction (such as a white behind on an Asian bod) but we’re gonna disregard all of that in this make-believe situation ok? =D

To be honest, I don’t believe in a set recipe for creating a partner. A lot of the time, external factors come into play, such as timing, chemistry and compatibility. That’s something I’ve definitely learnt first-hand =D

I know I’m coming across totally boy-crazy in this post but well, it’s healthy to unleash this side of yourself once in awhile.. Haha =) Have also realized that I have left out certain, shall we say, demographics… Maybe I just haven’t come across people I like who are not white/asian.. Haha. I do really like Simon Webbe of Blue though. Haha.

What do you think? Agree or disagree with my perfect concoction? Have things to add yourself? Think you could be my perfect man? (I doubt it since almost none of my readers are guys. HAHA)

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so this post is gonna be all about different levels of attraction to people.. I’ve wanted to post about this for awhile since, well, it’s something that I’ve had to explain to quite some of my friends..

See I’m the kind of person who likes people on a varying level of degrees.. Much like most people, actually. We have stages/phases of Liking, as I’d like to call it.. And different people have different definitions for the same “stage” .. For instance, a crush is defined by some of my friends as much less serious than I define it.. So when my friends ask if I have a crush on someone, I say “NOOOOO” vehemently and they’re taken aback.. Heh.

So here’s my take on the different Stages of Liking (hereby titled SOL)

Starting from the least serious:

STAGE ZERO

Stage 0) Just to be meticulously accurate, stage 0 is apathy. Defined by a total lack of attraction or dislike towards a person. Negative stages will reflect the exact same amount of feeling toward a person, only the emotion is opposite (negative.. like dislike or hatred)

STAGE ONE

Stage 1) I call stage one Agreement. It’s when you agree/acknowledge/admit that this person is attractive, but either you don’t like his/her character at all or you don’t know him/her well enough. You just think that you could see what someone else sees in the person.

STAGE TWO

Stage 2) Two is Attraction. When you feel that a person is good-looking/hot and would do the person. This is different from Stage 1 in that you don’t agree with general opinion (which is passive) but you actively find the person attractive. It’s still on a very low level though, and you still might not know this person well at all. However, you definitely don’t hate this person’s character.

STAGE THREE

Stage 3) This is the subjective/messy part where people might not agree. Most people put “crush” here but I’d put Appreciation as stage 3. Appreciation happens when you start to appreciate the person for his/her character and enjoy hanging out with him/her. You could even start imagining yourselves going out on a date and perhaps maybe even (note use of numerous qualifiers) probably see yourself in a relationship with this person.

STAGE FOUR

Stage 4) Here comes the Crush.. Stage 4 (the Crush) is defined by a desire to talk to and hang out with the person, as well as the wish to end up in a relationship with the object of longing (lol).. Here’s where my definition of a crush differs from what I know a lot of people have defined. I personally don’t develop crushes on people I know nothing about or have not spoken to on a regular basis. Some other people, however, are perfectly ok with labeling their attraction to some popular person in school as a crush..

STAGE FIVE

Stage 5) Beyond the crush, relationships are starting to solidify and we’re delving into words that have more weight to them. Stage 5 is a stage of Liking. You may or may not be in a relationship with someone but you have definitely had enough interaction on a regular basis to develop strong feelings for this person. You are concerned for their wellbeing and would do things for them that take up your time. You think about them a lot of the time but you still live separate lives.

STAGE SIX

Stage 6) Here comes the big L-word. We move from Liking to Love. I don’t think I need to explain this too much but most times at this stage, you’re in a relationship (not necessarily all the time) and you feel intimate with this person. You care deeply for him/her and (without being too explicit) would do things with him/her.. You feel the need to spend special occasions together and not only do you care for this person, but because of your feelings towards him/her, you also feel a certain amount of affection and concern for the people in his/her life (ie family members or close friends) Also, you’re ready to commit to this singular person by this stage.

STAGE SEVEN (& beyond)

Stage 7) Anything beyond Stage 6 is slightly scary. I have one all-encompassing stage for everything beyond Stage 6 and it’s called OBSESSION. Yup, Mariah Carey’s song indeed. Obsession is when you are so driven by your feelings for a person that you feel the need to see/hear from/talk to that person all the time. You resort to stalking the person (be it on facebook or in real life) to catch a glimpse of him/her or to find out what he/she is doing..

I wasn’t sure if I should put Obsession in the list of Stages because it isn’t really an emotion or a stage of loving-feeling towards a person. However, it is an emotionally-driven stage that does fit in on the spectrum so I left it in.

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And there you have it, the complete list of SOL. Of course the above is just MY personally defined list of stages and should not be used as a guide to all women/men out there.. Though if you want to talk to ME about how I feel about a person, this would be a pretty good scale to use =)

As for the question in the blog title… Hey I’m notorious for keeping my private life private (kinda) so did you really think I was gonna even acknowledge such a question? It was just a teaser to get you guys reading =D

Enjoy, guys, and ttyl! =)

PS and Disclaimer: None of the images used in the blog post are mine. I ran a search on Google and found them. No infringement intended.

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I’ve wanted to post this for awhile now.. I’ve been crazy about a Taiwan television drama for the past few weeks.. If you have me on msn you’ll notice i’ve been squeeing about this show for abit.. My MSN nick’s “光阴的故事！！ 美元恋FTW!!!” Hehe. 光阴的故事 is the title of the show.. Roughly translated, it means “The story of the passing of Time” or “The Story of Time” or even more directly, “Time’s Story”..

It’s a very sweet back-to-the-old-days kinda story about people living in the village areas of Taiwan from around the 1950’s all the way to modern day Taiwan.. It’s pretty long and draggy but the characters are endearing and funny (quirky would be a better word) and you’ll start to feel as if you know them after awhile.. In fact, before I started watching this show I thought it was pretty stupid but I started to watch it because I wanted to spend more time with my mom so I watched it with her (she likes it haha).. Now I’ve really developed a liking for this show and am watching the entire series on tudou, heh.

My favorite part of the show has to be the development of the relationship between characters 许毅源 (xu yiyuan) and 孙一美 (sun yimei).. The term for their relationship is the second part of my msn nick.. 美元恋FTW!!!  Haha minus the FTW of course.. I added that part. The guy’s name, Yi Yuan, sounds like One Dollar in Chinese, so they all call him Ji kou/r (which is one dollar in Taiwanese) .. The moniker for the couple is Mei Yuan, which means USD. Haha. Anyhoo, that aside, I really really really love this couple.

More accurately, I really really love how sweet Yi Yuan is to Yi Mei (the guy is to the girl).. I don’t believe that such a sweet guy exists (something I’ve mentioned in an earlier post)… He’s protective, loving, caring, thoughtful, sensitive, and just so much more!! Soooooooooo sweet omg.. Like the perfect boyfriend / husband!! *sighs*..

I utterly love seeing this two together.. She’s really cute and a little bit stupid.. She’s also very nosy and cares a lot about her friends. He cares a lot for her (after falling for her, of course) and is so loving and protective and oh I could go on and on..

Sigh if I could find me a guy like that in real life!!! Though I actually don’t think he’s very good-looking… (He’s kinda Jay-Chou-ish which isn’t bad.. Haha) but this picture below seems to want to prove me wrong.. He might be quite good-looking!

Hehe. Anyhoo, it’s a great show with solid acting (most of the time) and interesting characters. I love it and you might too! =) Go watch!

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it’s possible this blog entry was in some way spurred by a very odd dream I had last night.. don’t get me wrong, it was an amazing (albeit short) dream. I think it had something to do with the fact that I had just watched a Friends episode before I went to bed — TOW Rachel’s Book. In that episode, Chandler and Monica begin preparing their wedding and Monica brings out her wedding book etc..

Anyway, my dream was soooo sweet but a bit out of character for me. I dreamt I was at my wedding. No shit. My groom was the male protagonist from Wild Child, but Asian. Honestly, dreams are weird. If they aren’t weird, they aren’t dreams.

So yea that guy (Alex Pettyfer.. I had to wiki it) was my husband-to-be and man I was sooo happy in my dream! It was really weird coz

1) He was Asian in some way that wasn’t really visible (though I think in my dream his hair was really dark and so were his eyes or something) [and no shit, somehow even my subconscious wants me to marry an Asian guy, not a white guy. so much so that a white guy was turned Asian.. ]

2) He’s not even my type! I haven’t even thought about this dude since I last watched Wild Child! He’s not one of those guys I obsess over (like Li Yuan and Xu Yi Yuan)

Anyway, back to the dream. We were walking around in the ballroom before the guests arrived, I was in a pretty white dress twirling around (seriously, this shit doesn’t sound like me) and somehow I was surprised by the wedding. It was some kinda surprise party wedding.. Then the guests turned up, congratulating us etc.. At one point one of my aunties started hounding me for $600 that she had passed to me like, an hour before the wedding. For some reason. -__-”

Anyhoo, that isn’t the whole point of the entry. I wanted to blog about this because I was thinking about a friend of mine and wondering if he/she would end up with his/her (don’t want to reveal the identity of my friend LOL) current partner and wondering if they DID get married, whether I’d get invited.

Have you ever wondered whether you’d get invited to a friend’s wedding? It’s interesting because on the one hand, you want to get invited because it means your friend remembered you or felt you were important enough. On the other, you don’t want to have to go and get a gift, find a date etc.

You don’t face this situation with REALLY good friends. Those you know for SURE you’d get invited to. I’m talking about good friends who you don’t talk to ALL the time or friend with whom you don’t know where you stand.. I started thinking more about the issue of wedding invitations because it’s the one big party everyone has in their lives. Whoever they invite to this party will be part of that person’s history. Though you could say the same for 21st birthday parties, I think weddings are WAY bigger.

Some ex-classmates of mine have already gone and gotten married. I was not invited to any of those. I don’t feel sore about it, just a bit left out I guess. I didn’t expect to be invited because I wasn’t really close to them, but when other common friends are invited and you aren’t, you start wondering what you did wrong. Lol. When the reality is probably that the couple probably had to cut down on guests they were inviting for cost-saving purposes.

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Since we’re on the topic of weddings and having to attend them, I started thinking about the tradition of the bouquet toss. Sometimes it seems humiliating to me to have to stand and be labeled “single” (more on this next time).. It seems like many women out there place huge importance on catching the bouquet at weddings since well, many shows have women fighting tooth and nail over the bouquets…

I don’t know about you guys, but I’m one of those girls who completely shuns the bouquet. I mean, sure it’d be fun to catch the bouquet but MAN the response from everyone around you once you catch it. I hate when my relatives ask about my love life. In fact, in general, I don’t talk about my love life much except to my close friends (with whom I talk about my love life endlessly)..

Thing is, I don’t think that’s the real reason why I’d shun the bouquet. I think there’s some other reason I don’t want to and I don’t know why. It’s definitely not that I want to remain single all my life or something (though I do have a problem with commitment). Oh well, not a problem I’ll have to think about soon anyway. I’ll wait till the wedding invitations come in to start shuddering.

Will I be invited to your wedding? =D

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I need to finish this post by today because I want to post this on today’s significant date.. Do you know what date it is today? 09.09.09! I only realized this when I saw a news feature about this baby being born at 9.09am today and the following story on thousands of couples getting married today…

For those of you who don’t know the significance of this date to us Chinese people, 9 in Chinese/Cantonese is hononymous (sounds like) with the word “long (lasting)”.. It’s typically considered a romantic number to symbolise longevity of relationships.. People get married on dates with 9 in them or give token red packets in denominations of 9 as a “hope” that their relationship will last forever. Roses are also given in 9, 99 or 999.. There’s even a song called 999 roses..

On a side note, Singapore’s emergency number to dial for the police is 999.. Does it mean it’ll take them forever to get to you? hmm..

Anyway, I thought it would be a good opener for a topic that I’d wanted to blog about for EVER (hey, 99!)..

I believe many people here know of the concept of The One. It’s a concept commonly explored in chick lit novels, situational comedies, glossy magazines and many more.. In fact, so many people believe in this concept that they actually question themselves before they get into a relationship on whether their potential partner is, indeed, The One.

Just a quick search on google turns out so many different results on finding out if he’s The One..

I think I might even have bought into this concept for awhile when I was younger. Now, disillusioned as I am, I completely disagree with the idea that there is ONE perfect person out there for each person. I think reading so many chick lits and magazines has caused many many women to have highly unrealistic expectations of what men should be like.

I concede, I am one of those girls. I’d like a man who’s manly, assertive, funny, intelligent, smart, sexy etc.. (In other words, 许毅源from《光阴的故事》 but more on that later..)  I know, however, that such a person is nearly impossible to find. And even if I were to find someone like that, chances are someone else has already landed him.

So while I believe that there’s no way I can find someone like that, I do believe, however, that there are imperfect people out there that will soon grow into people who possess such qualities that make girls fall in love. I believe that love is a matter of timing. If two people are  looking for the same thing at the same time, that’s when things work out for them. However, if a girl finds a perfect boy but the boy is not looking for anything serious at the moment, or if a boy finds the perfect girl but the girl finds him too immature, then things aren’t going to work out for them.

The previous two examples were real-life examples of people I know. In both cases, they’ve found other people they love and are in committed relationships right now.

To me, love is a concoction of variables such as attitude, timing and compatibility. You need the right attitude/mentality towards a committed relationship to be in one. The timing is essential to ensure you’re both at the right place. Compatibility needs no explanation, you definitely need to be compatible in most ways to have a long-lasting relationship.

These things don’t come about all of a sudden. That’s why I don’t believe in concepts such as “Love at first sight” or cheesy crap like “You had me at hello”. Those things can only be seen in movies and they belong there. The One also doesn’t exist. Anyone can be The One if you give them a chance and work at your relationship.

If you keep looking for The One, you might miss out The Ones with a Chance, or The MaybeThisCouldWorkOut One. I don’t think we really fall in love. We grow in love.

My msn nick for today is “if I find a boyfriend today (09 09 09) then I’ll believe in the concept of “The One’. Otherwise, no such thing, people!!!”

There’s half an hour left to the end of the day. If something miraculous happens by then, maybe I’ll change my viewpoint (because it would be truly magical for anything to happen lol) Otherwise, I just want everyone to open their eyes to the opportunities around them. I’m not saying give up hope on love, I’m saying look around. It might be somewhere you never looked. Or even right in front of your eyes!

Man I sound like a chick lit or a magazine columnist. Anyhoo, happy 090909 all!

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